Research on the important issue of childhood bullying reveals one very important fact: The parents of the Bullying child often had either no idea their son or daughter had been a bully, or they knew only very limited information about the circumstances. Almost all such parents reported that they would have acted right away, only if they had known.
We have a solution.
First: The Effects of Bullying
The effects of bullying can be devastating for all involved resulting in physical injury, social and emotional distress, and self-harm.
According to the Center for Disease Control, students who are bullied are more likely to experience low self-esteem and isolation, perform poorly in school, have few friends in school, have a negative view of school, experience physical symptoms (such as headaches, stomachaches, or problems sleeping), and to experience mental health issues (such as depression, suicidal thoughts, and anxiety) (Center for Disease Control, Bullying Surveillance Among Youths, 2014).
Victims are also are more likely to use tobacco, alcohol, or other drugs; have increased mental health problems; and miss or skip school (StopBullying.gov).
Youth who bully others are at increased risk for substance use, academic problems, and experiencing violence later in adolescence and adulthood. Youth who bully others and are bullied themselves suffer the most serious consequences and are at greater risk for mental health and behavioral problems. (Center for Disease Control, 2017).
Second: The Solution
Solution? If your child is the subject of bullying, reach out the parents in a thoughtful, constructive, non-confrontational way. In other words, START the conversation. You likely will be surprised at the positive response and the willingness of these parents to put an end to it.
First step: Locate the contact information for the parents. For this, leading Person Search technology like gladiknow.com can be a great resource to obtain phone, address and email information. All you need to tap into this technology is the name and location (city and state) of the person, or an address.
Next: Reach out the parent in a thoughtful, friendly and non-confrontation way. Something like: “Hi John, I am Michael’s dad. Not sure if you knew about it, but there have been couple of incidents recently involving our kids (at school, practice, playground, etc.). I think it would be great if we could grab a coffee and talk about it and together come up with a solution, and get things back on the right track with the two of them.”
Chances are you will be surprised and pleased with the response, and a solution might be right around the corner.
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